A Match it is not…

Sometimes finding that special person is not merely a matter of searching, it is understanding who you are looking for and why. Many individuals repeat problematic patterns in selecting a romantic partner. Consequently, the Valenti team of doctors commonly selects individuals for introduction who might never have chosen one another on their own. This presents obvious conflict, but simultaneously creates opportunity for a new experience.

“Opposites attract,” perhaps, yet similarity may be a component to longevity in a relationship. Understanding why you are attracted to a particular type of person can be complicated. Many are doomed to repeat troubled patterns of poor choices, affairs, or financially destructive relationships—the mistake may be discovered only after years of a person’s life have vanished.

As an ethical and morally responsible organization Valenti International makes no promises or assurances and in fact the psychological team is likely to select a “match” that appears juxtaposed to a client's most obvious wants. The marked difference in this service is that people who are truly ready for a committed relationship are asked to turn over the selection process to the psychologists; the results are often challenging to all involved but with hope for a new experience.

What you want, may be markedly different than what you need. “Look to your past for the answer,” says chief psychologist Dr. Jason Camu. A functional combination between wants and needs can lead to a fulfilling relationship. Thus, clients of Valenti International are asked to make a difficult choice. The client peers at his or her own limitations, insecurity, and weakness while the team of doctors carefully select an individual based on complementary character make-up. For example, the stereotypic shy and reticent scientist may be paired best not in similarity but difference; a vivacious yet supportive woman who helps him grow and feel socially competent.

Suitability can be elusive for some and may even seem impossible because they fail to understand why patterns are repeated or to whom they are best paired. Listening to a client’s wants is just one piece. Understanding the genesis of those wants and what they represent is listening at an entire differently level of depth.

Matchmaking is the process of introducing two individuals that might develop a romantic, loving, and collaborative partnership—not simply using a criteria as expressed in a questionnaire. For example, what of the woman who specifies 34-38 years of age, only to find the love of her life is actually 39 years of age. A primary reason people come to us is because they have been unsuccessful in selecting their own partner. We rely on psychologists to help best define what that person needs from a relationship.

Dr. Jason N. Camu, Chief Psychologist, Valenti International

Singles, Dating, Love… One matchmaker brings dignity to a painfully real world replete with fantasy

The wealth of online, dating, and other types of more casual and demeaning services to find love have left the grounded, more conservative and educated searching to find respectful family based services. Remarkable, bright, and accomplished people do not consider themselves amongst the throngs of singles, rather they are individuals with specific wants, needs and desires, including lifestyle preferences. Matchmakers or matchmaking services approach the individual as having unique worth and qualities that require personal assistance and support. Valenti International is perhaps the most highly regarded yet simultaneously invisible organization, standing alone in quality and professionalism; matchmaking is moved both forward and backwards in time, integrating qualities of heritage and family with the professionalism of licensed doctors to assist in the pairing of individuals. Modeled after an old European village paradigm, with a wise matriarch who knows all including familial expectation and culture, people are privately introduced to one another to fall in love. Irene Valenti, the founder and president offered this sobering statement:

“Sadly people sometimes forget their real worth and subject themselves to the humiliation of meeting a strangers, ultimately to be hurt. We try and capture the magic of romance, yet apply realism including assessment of character, culture, family, and lifestyle. Dreams of tall, dark, and handsome are balanced with the essential, for example a person’s readiness to make a commitment. Services always overlook the basic and instead promise fantasy, playing on people’s insecurities—this is terrible. Of all we try to do to fill a wish list, perhaps most importantly we attend to basic values and the core qualities of the person.”

The international organization is known as much as a powerful and unique consulting company as it is for romance, matchmaking, and confidentiality. Amongst those who know of Valenti International, it is held as the organization to the stars, celebrities, and world’s elite. In a volatile emotional business and practice which naturally involves intense feelings, and even when under attack, the organization consistently rises above the media to protect their client’s privacy and personal lives with integrity and moral and ethical responsibility—an impressive feat.

Dr. Jason N. Camu, Chief Psychologist, Valenti International