Valenti International responds to the San Diego Union Tribune article “Can’t buy me love,”

Fraught with inaccuracies and slanted for sensationalism, journalistic integrity appears lost.

Can you really trust the search results on Google and Yahoo? Appearing as if it were yesterday, the San Diego Union Tribune article “Can’t buy me love,” appears in Google and Yahoo search results as if it were hot of the presses. Valenti International feels the time is now to finally tell their side of the story. “We were quiet and wanted to avoid dragging our business and clients through the mud by taking the higher ground, but the article has created a profound misperception regarding our business. People don’t notice the date of the article. It’s as if the article is being republished every time you search for our company. We trust search engines to provide us with timely and accurate results. After speaking with a potential client today who made reference to this article, I decided it was time,” said President Irene Valenti.

Less than one tenth of one percent, (.001), that is the fraction of clients that have pursued a legal complaint with Valenti International, now in business for over 19 years in the same small and private affluent community of Rancho Santa Fe, California.

The truth is… “I personally witnessed the San Diego Union Tribune staff writer illegally entering and bypassing security gates in the hopes of gaining information about celebrity clients,” says Steve Valenti, Director of Operations for Valenti International. According to Robert Page, the Managing Director of Valenti International, “prior to her trespassing, the writer refused a formal written invitation for an interview with the founder of Valenti International, Irene Valenti. She claims in the article that Valenti International refused to meet with her. What is not stated in the article is that most cases were amicably settled and never actually reached a court of law. Thus, the term “sued” was completely misleading creating the impression that Valenti International is fraudulent and in big trouble with the law when the fact is that a majority of clients are pleased. Apparently the appeal of exploiting lonely and emotionally hurt individuals for public ridicule in a distorted article was just too enticing. And that is perhaps the ultimate truth behind the “Can’t buy me love” story published in the Union Tribune.”

Irene Valenti continues, “Unfortunately, the writer was so interested in Valenti International and she appeared to have a premeditated agenda to ride the company’s shining and sophisticated reputation as the founders of traditional matchmaking.”

Rather than conduct a balanced interview, she illegally trespassed and was found at Irene Valenti’s home. Irene Valenti was stunned to find the writer inside the gated community and asking probing questions of her neighbors. She was also caught trespassing at the Valenti International World Headquarters by the founder’s son, Steve Valenti. “She was sneaking into the gated estate, all of which could have been avoided. Clearly she was not after a balanced story. Gates, secrecy, privacy, all are necessary for many clients who are public figures and highly recognizable,” added Steve.

Of course Valenti occasionally has an unhappy customer—this is a highly emotional business. Yet Valenti is incredibly proud of an impressive track record and commitment to clients. Thousands of clients year after year are pleased, satisfied, and content in their private experience. Made to look mean and fraudulent, Valenti International’s voice was never heard—what of the couple married in 2005 that recently had twins? Or the European couple that left Germany to honeymoon in San Diego to thank Valenti for their efforts?

Valenti International does not solicit with coercive charismatic personal references or promising statistics to legitimize the service. Every client is a highly unique and complex person, with his or her own probability of success. Respect, confidentiality, and dignity, along with quality clientele and a trained staff are part of what the company guarantees.

The company employs licensed doctors (an entire team) to make matches and ensure that clients receive professionally informed attention. Conversely, the industry has a reputation for unscrupulous companies and laypeople masquerading as “matchmakers.” How someone could entrust a total stranger lacking in education, training in human behavior and emotions, or professional qualifications and standards for practice is frightening. Valenti International remains at the top for a reason.

Additionally, it should not be overlooked that Valenti International forms a lasting relationship with clients for three years. A collaborative three-year relationship only survives with trust and mutual goals, the functional antithesis of fraud or misrepresentation. Because the service standard is so high with only psychologists, the company has thrived with a strong reputation and enduring integrity.

“On occasion it is disappointing when we cannot provide a client with the dream relationship he or she desires; we deal with this reality as part of our job. Matching incredible people is unbelievably demanding, and the entire team is totally devoted to this end. We want our clients to be happy, the happiness that comes from knowing unconditional love with their partner. Our most successful clients always look the same in one regard: they take responsibility for their own part in our shared goals and fully trust and participate in our process, even through difficult emotional times.”
Irene Valenti, known as the founder of traditional matchmaking since 1990, President of Valenti International.

Essential Steps To Move On To A New Relationship

In order to move on to a new relationship, you must let go of the past. While it can be challenging to end a relationship and move forward it can even be more of a struggle to leave behind the difficulties that led to a breakup. This can be particularly challenging in the case of divorce. At Valenti International, Irene Valenti and the matchmaking team work with our clients to help them recognize that while they may have ended a relationship the real work and healing comes from releasing the emotions and often residual anger from the past. Often times we are not even aware of how our thoughts and our actions communicate to others that we are still angry or have unresolved feelings from the past. These feelings can color our relationships as we move forward and prevent individuals from finding new love. Discussing past negative experiences and the associated feelings is an important part of moving forward. If you still fell strongly about how a relationship ended or have ongoing anger or concerns related to custody or financial issues, seek the support of a counselor or someone you trust. Do not make the mistake of discussing these issues or concerns with a date or potential romantic partner. It is not appropriate and you simply cannot move forward with your thoughts and feelings stuck in the past. Remember that others listen to how you speak about your past and previous romantic partners as a way to determine how you might treat them. It is not necessary to discuss past relationships with those you are dating and frankly can be destructive and ultimately damage or hinder the opportunity for new relationships. If you are still angry or bitter, get help, and work to leave the past behind you. This is essential if you hope to move forward.

Submitted by Dr. Stacey Hoyt